Many times in relationships we believe that if the right person just came along everything would change for us. We are greatly mistaken in thinking that Mr. or Mrs. “right” is the answer to our happiness. It’s rare that we look to ourselves and ask if we are ready to find the “right” person.
For a thriving and successful relationship, we must shift our focus from finding the right person to becoming the right person. One of the most frustrating things in searching for the right person is seeking an above average partner without becoming an above average person.
If we are not ready for the right person, when they come along they will likely not be a blessing. In movies and TV shows we often see relationships where one person changes the other and the couple sails off happily ever after.
The hard truth is, we can’t change our partners and our partners can’t change us. We must make the decision to change ourselves and commit to supporting our partners in their own journey of becoming the best person they can become for the relationship.
The good news is that as a human you can become exactly the person you want to be. If you look back at one of your early relationships, it doesn’t take long to realize that you were not the same person then as you are today.
As humans we were designed to grow, mature, and change. If you want to become more generous, more caring, more honest, whatever it may be, you can take steps today to make that happen.
Really enjoyed that Daniel.